7 habits of highly successful teens

Habit 6

Habit 6: synergize

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn it doesn’t have to be “your way” or “my way” but rather a better way, higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others. Synergy is the reward, the delicious fruit you’ll taste as you get better at living the other habits, especially at thinking win-win and seeking first to understand. Learning to synergize is like learning to form a V formation with others instead of trying to fly through life solo. You’ll be amazed at how much faster and farther you’ll go. Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. You have to get there. And the foundation of getting there is this: learn to celebrate differences.

 A good band is a great example of synergy. It’s not just the drums, or the guitar, or the sax, or the vocalist, it’s all of them together that make up the “sound.” each band member brings his or her strength to the table to create something better then each could alone. No instrument is more important than another, just different.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

Student success statement

“So often, in our quest to be more popular and to be part of the “in group,” we lose sight of things that are far more important.”

Sean Covey

So what he is trying to say is that if you try really hard to be someone you’re not just to get popular you might just lose sight of the really important things which are: school, homework, family, class, and friends.

7 habits of highly successful teens habit 5

5. Seek first to understand, and then to be understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure you your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening

Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are a unique, one of a kind, never to be cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middle unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Listening with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of the communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflects in our voice (40%). Most people are eager to talk and rather talk than listen we have one mouth and 2 ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. Learn to listen to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding. Seek first to understand then to be understood. LISTEN

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

7 habits of highly effective teens habit 4

4. Think win-win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an astrosphere of win-win in every relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them. Win-win is a belief that everyone can win. It’s both nice and tough all at once I won’t step on you but I won’t be your doormat either. You care about other people and you want them to succeed. But you also care about yourself, and you want to succeed as well. Win-win is abundant. It is the belief that there’s plenty of success to go around. It’s not either you or me. It’s both of us. It’s not a matter of who gets the biggest piece of the pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone. It’s an all you can eat buffet.

Win-win always creates more. Perhaps the most surprising benefit of thinking win-win is the good feeling it brings on. The true test of whether or not you are thinking win-win for one of the alternatives is how you feel. Win-lose and lose-win thinking will cloud your judgment and fill you with negative feelings.

Win-win will fill your heart with happy and serene thoughts. It will give you confidence. Even fill you with light. Think win-win or no deal.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

Student success statement

“You cannot do wrong and feel right.

It is impossible.”

Ezra T. Benson

What Ezra is saying is that if you do something wrong you don’t automatically feel right after you did it because it was wrong it is not good to do the wrong thing. You will feel good when you do good but when you do bad you will feel bad and that’s how it is. Always choose the right not wrong.

7 habits of highly successful teens habit 3

Habits: put first things first

Habit 3 is about will and will not power. This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. Its living life according to what matters most. Putting first things first deals with things that are: important or not important, urgent or not urgent. Let’s look at the 4 quadrants of time management.

Quadrant1: things that are important and urgent

Quadrant2: things that are important but not urgent

Quadrant3: things that are not important but are urgent

Quadrant4: things that are not important and not urgent

1.    Important and urgent	2.    Important but not urgent
3.    Not important but are urgent	4.    Not important and not urgent

 Quadrant 2 is the ideal place to spend our time, doing things that are important but not urgent. Here’s where priorities come into play. The results for quadrant 2 are:

1.    Control of your life

2.    Balance

3.    High performance

So, in what quadrant are you spending most your time? The key is to shift as much time as possible into quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the prize and reach for it.

Choose the right!!!

Student success statement

“The only difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded lies in the difference of their habits. Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure thus, the first law will obey, which precedeth all other is ‘I will form good habits and become their slaves.”

Og Mandino

What Mr. Mandino is saying is that if you try to act bad but you know you’re not  or if you try to act very good but you know you are very bad than don’t try to be something you’re not be you. If you have bad habits try to have good habit rather than bad. So always remember choose the right and always have good habits